Early dating can be exciting—new connection, fresh possibilities, all those little moments that make you wonder where this could go.

But excitement alone doesn’t build a secure, fulfilling relationship.

Sometimes, that rush of attraction makes us ignore red flags. Other times, we get so caught up in where we hope things are heading that we stop listening to ourselves.

If you’ve ever found yourself waiting for mixed signals to turn into clarity, brushing aside your own needs to “see where things go,” or doubting your gut when something feels off—you’re not alone. And the good news? You don’t have to stay stuck in that pattern.

Have you ever been in a relationship that just felt... easy?

Not because you never had disagreements, but because—even when you did—you knew you were on the same team.

Where you felt safe to be yourself.

Where you didn’t have to overthink every text, every word, every little shift in energy... because deep down, you knew you were valued, respected, and loved.

That’s what a secure relationship feels like.

And if that doesn’t sound familiar—don’t worry. Secure relationships aren’t just something you find... they’re something you can create.

Have you ever felt like you’re doing everything you can to connect with your partner, but it’s just not landing? Maybe you’re looking for reassurance, and they respond with, “You’re overthinking it,” or you’re hoping for closeness, but they seem to pull away.

Why Does Dating Feel Like a Rollercoaster?

Have you ever felt like dating is way more complicated than it needs to be? One moment, things are going great—you're laughing, having fun, and imagining all the possibilities. Then suddenly, you're staring at your phone, re-reading their last text (or freaking out because they haven’t replied), and wondering, Did I mess this up?

• If you have anxious attachment style and you’re wanting tools to help you shift toward secure, using a somatic or body-based approach is very helpful.

• For a lot of people with anxious attachment, it’s common to seek reassurance, love, and validation from a partner, which can sometimes make relationships feel uncertain or stressful. These attachment patterns often start early in life and don’t just affect how we feel emotionally—they also show up in our bodies.

• When I was certified as a dynamic attachment practitioner, I learned just how important body awareness is for shifting toward secure attachment, and it was a big part of my own journey toward finding secure love.